No-one Needs One Million Moms

by Lesley

…if you have one in a million like Paul, our guest blogger ~

I read a story today about the American group “One Million Moms“; this is a group who have made it their mission to try to make the world more family friendly – which is not something I am opposed to in the slightest. In fact I would love a truly family friendly world one where kids could grow up surrounded by love and respect for themselves and others. What I do not agree with is when people think that the world can only be friendly towards one type of family; their family.

The story I read today was about one of their more recent campaigns to boycott a popular store due to their printing a picture of a lesbian kiss in their catalogue. I have seen this picture and in my opinion it is in no way explicit – but I would encourage you to go online and see it and draw your own conclusions.

This story stuck with me for two reasons; one is that I in no way believe that the store chose to print this picture without first knowing that, sadly in the world we live in, it would cause controversy. I would love to believe that this was the company’s way of showing their support for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community, but as I’m sure most of you will agree it is more likely that they are following the “there is no such thing as bad publicity” school of thought.

I believe this is incredibly irresponsible for a company to exploit people’s views purely for the purposes of advertising because what they seem to forget is that words have power.  Governments can be overthrown by people stating their opinion en masse and this retailer has caused a similar phenomenon,  it has created “One Million Moms” so called because their aim is to recruit one million mothers to their cause to state in unison that they believe this material is unsuitable for children, which brings me to my next point.

Think of the children.

Statistics say that on average 1 in every 10 people are gay, so if you assume that each one of their goal number of one million moms has one child each then that means that there are currently 100,000 kids that will lie in bed tonight knowing their mother thinks it’s bad to be gay and that worry if their mother will still love them if she knew they were different.

It would be interesting to find out how many mothers would sign a petition to ensure that no child has to feel that way, because I like to think it would be a lot more than a million.

One has to wonder, instead of bullying companies into changing their television advertising times so as not to coincide with shows they don’t feel appropriate or launching nationwide campaigns urging parents to throw a catalogue in the bin…

Why hasn’t there been this much outcry from mothers’ organizations about kids committing suicide as a direct result of these kinds of attitudes?

As we all know kids repeat what they hear even if they are too young to understand it. I believe if your child hears it’s bad to be gay from you, then chances are it will treat a gay kid badly. Once you start on this train of thought the negative impact of this group is almost incalculable.

But since I believe that all things in existence require, and will have balance, I would like to try and level out their negative impact on the world, with your help;  since although a rant about how horrible I believe this campaign is might make me feel slightly better, it won’t change the negative to a positive.

So here is my idea.

  • If you have a child make sure you tell them regularly you love them regardless of who or what they become; most will probably be embarrassed but they will be happy.
  • Stop wasting time telling other people’s kids their going to hell and spend more time making sure your own kids aren’t already there.

If enough people were to do this, instead of making a store change their catalogue on million moms will have inadvertently caused mothers across the world to tell their kids “who cares if you’re gay, we love you anyway.”

At the end of the day, no matter what one million moms say, it only takes one mums voice to make the world a better place for her child. My mum did it for me when I told her I was gay and you can do it for yours.

About Lesley

Lesley Rodgers has written 146 posts on this blog.

Personal Development Consultant and Confidence Coach. Lesley is also a committed Human Rights Activist with her heart firmly lodged in 'community' and collaboration.


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