Twelve Empowerment Tips to Being Authentic
If something is authentic, it is real, true, or what people say it is. (Cambridge Dictionaries Online)
It’s a scary thing being fully you; it means committing to the things you truly believe in, perhaps even standing up to authority over those beliefs. It may also mean that if you’re naturally shy and happy to be this way, that you do not allow others to bully you into being some other way.
In all, being fully you is about your perception of who you are; understanding, learning, loving and ultimately trusting yourself on all important matters.
…This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Firstly we must notice and identify any incongruence we present to ourselves and others. This may be something as trivial as saying we’ll do a certain task but we know we have no intention of completing it – or something which others are more vulnerable with; like saying ‘I love you’ just to keep the peace or make the other person happy.
Incongruence always shows up later – and it’s usually messy! Don’t wait ‘til it catches up with you.
It takes courage to grow up and become who we really are.
It’s all about being comfortable and confident in your own skin while interacting with the outside world. If you’re happy with who you are and only require minor changes to your daily life, make some notes, mental or otherwise to correct any aberrant behaviour.
If you’re not satisfied with who you present to others and feel unable to make changes on your own, seek help to make and maintain the necessary changes from friends, family and/or find someone you can trust who can professionally advise and support you.
Being authentic may cause you to make changes. This is turn opens you up to new experiences but be prepared for others to view you differently too; you may no longer ‘fit’ with their expectations of you, they may even say ‘you’ve changed’ in a derogatory way.
This is probably due to their perceived loss of the ‘known’ to them or perhaps you’ve become more or less malleable – you’ll definitely become less susceptible to being controlled or manipulated by someone.
There are many ways you’ll improve your quality of life as you find and accept the very real you.
The most obvious benefit from becoming and being authentic is the empowerment that you feel and can use in all areas of life; confidence, strength and self-reliance.
12 Tips to Being Authentic
- Strive to be aware of who and what you present to others
- Respect the opinion of others, even if you don’t agree with it.
- Knowledge IS power – fill your boots with it!
- Increase and improve your skills – expand and diversify your talents.
- Decide to make changes to suit your new worldview; reassess & remove what no longer serves.
- Honour and trust your intuition, it’s your internal security system.
- Commit to doing your very best in any given situation.
- Take responsibility for your thoughts, words and actions – be accountable.
- No-one can dis-empower you unless you allow it; don’t allow it!
- Speak your truth quietly and clearly.
- Be fully you, wherever you are.
- Relax – you’re almost there.